The Ugly Truths

Often times, people seek my consult so that they can determine the best plan of action for whatever idea that they have. They base the fact that I’ll be able to answer this question on how they see me address various issues.

Okay, fine. However, more times than not, these people seek my advice and then only fight against me when they hear it. Why? Because most people that seek advice only want you to confirm what they already think or can’t take constructive criticism. In other words, they waste my time. I tell many people that they should find others from which they can receive advice from but they specifically want me. I don’t present myself as a nice person and I most definitely don’t present myself as one who has time to Sigmund Freud everyone’s problems. I often find it funny the number of “friends” who only address me when they want something and those who contact me to tell me of something we can both benefit from. To date, the only initials who fill that position are A.C. and R.H. Don’t fucking find my number to barge in on my free time and bleed me dry of my resources and knowledge.

Still, I have people addressing me. First thing is first, if you set up a meeting with me, don’t be an hour and forty minutes late. It sort of transforms my mood downcast. But I’ll get over it; shit happens. On meeting me, don’t wonder about what I do or why I do it. I’m a stone cold, hard-core, drinker. The same ideas that you lusted over either through facebook, my sites, my writings, or in open forum are the same ideas that come out during my reveling of the “drink”. I don’t seek to change it for you because you are asking “me” for help. You conform to my standards.

Now that that’s all out of the way, let’s get to specifics. The reason that you ask me for my help is because you assume I know more or have additional info to offer that you couldn’t produce. That being said, shut the fuck up and let me discern the situation so that I can help you. If you are sensitive about your “dream” keep it in your sleep. I’ve done many meetings where people wanted to discuss their dream with me so I’m no rookie at it. When I invite you to a place of my choosing, consider that I have a good reason behind it. If you know that you’re not the type to want people to hear your plans of success, which is better: A loud bar where everyone is drunk or a quiet Starbucks where everyone is busy being politely quiet? Exactly, that’s why I do the thinking.

No, if you have plans of shushing me and not listening what do you think I will do? I will leave. I have no interest in bickering during a time that I shouldn’t even have lent in the first place. When you want to tell me of a business idea, consider that I’m going to rape your mind for all it’s worth. Don’t assume I know shit. Assume I know nothing and “realize” your dream to me right then and there. If you can’t birth your baby right there for me what makes you think you’re ready to present yourself to the world?

I don’t wish anyone failure in their successive endeavors but if you only want help that coincides with what you already think, you’re far behind the game. Furthermore, if you believe you have all the answers, venture out and prove it. Don’t ask for others help just to shoot them down when they don’t think what you think.

If you can’t be questioned on what you want to do and how you want to do it without becoming frustrated and feeling antagonized, you haven’t thought your dream through enough. But don’t waste my time with the bullshit. I’m a busy man and I have no room for those who want my counsel to confirm their actions. To ask me for help is to come with a level of humility that means you’re ready to listen.